Our children are the most valuable component of our lives. Our interaction with them, however, sometimes seems to be more characterized by hurt feelings and misunderstandings than it does by happiness. Often as not that is because we have failed in doing what parents are supposed to do, establish clear expectations and enable our children to meet those expectations.
An important tip for parents is to become acquainted with your children’s friends as well as their parents. By getting to know your children’s playmates and also their moms and dads, it is possible to develop a sense of comfort and confidence in the types of influences to which your sons and daughters are regularly exposed.
If you’re away on a trip without your child, make sure you call them at least once a day to tell them you miss them. This lets the child know that you love them and haven’t forgotten about them. You don’t want your child to feel like they’re not as important as your friends or your job are.
Pressuring a teenager into selecting a particular college or career option is not a good idea. When teens feel they are being overly controlled, they tend to go in the opposite direction, sometimes out of rebellion.
For young children, don’t underestimate the power of naps. They need more sleep than an older kid. Children can usually stop napping around five or six years old. Young toddlers should be taking up to two naps a day, and children 1.5 and older should still be taking one nap per day.
Using win/win negotiating strategies to help resolve the every day disputes that often arise between siblings can go a long way to help reduce fighting. When children quarrel, focus on trying to help them see that there is a solution that will get everyone’s needs met. Ask for their suggestions first and then offer more of your own.
A great parenting tip is to learn to speak to your child at their level. Don’t just bark orders at them all the time. They’ll just feel like they have no connection with you if you do that. Remove your ego, and learn to communicate better with your child.
A great parenting tip is to not shelter your children too much. Don’t tell your children that there are tons of people out there just waiting to kidnap them. This will only instill fear in your child. You have to let your children experience a bit of life, all by themselves.
Find a mesh teether. These neat little things allow you to put different kinds of food in them and keep them in the freezer and give them to your child when they need them. You can use any kind of food that your child likes and it will be an enjoyable treat for them as they sooth their sore gums.
If your child is afraid of going to bed alone, do not encourage them to come and lie in the bed with you. Make sure that they sleep in their own beds and reassure them that they are safe. You can even assign one of their stuffed animals to be a “bodyguard.”
Stick to a flexible routine and schedule. Try to plan meals at about the same time each day. The same is true for nap time and bed time. Children respond well to a routine. Their bodies physically adapt to it, and their time clock will, in time, automatically respond to it.
Let your child go barefoot as much as possible. There are multitudes of adorable footwear these days to adorn your little ones tootsie’s, but for the health of baby’s feet, barefoot is the way to go. Many pediatricians suggest that non-constraint of a child’s feet will promote their natural growth and your child would probably say it’s a lot more comfortable, anyway!
Surround a child with good books. Reading is arguably among the most critical skills we can have. Your child should develop a desire to read well before they are cognitively ready to actually do so. Keeping a collection of colorful and interesting books within their reach is a critical part of developing that desire.
Children often want to be our “little-helpers”� in the kitchen while we are cooking dinner. Take some pots and pans, along with a wooden spoon and a rolling-pin and let your little one bang to his hearts content. Encourage him by telling him how helpful he is being, and how you love when he helps you cook. This should entertain him long enough for you to whip up dinner.
The tips delineated above should prove indispensable in helping us teach our children just what it is that we expect and how they can go about achieving those expectations. That frees up our time, and theirs, for more positive one on one interaction with one another. What possibly could be a more important objective?