Book Review: Broken Relationships – Raising Youth in MySpace World by Chap Clark and Dee Clark

In this book, Clarks solves the problem of child-rearing young people in the 21st century. Like Chap Clark’s book, Damage 2.0They thoroughly describe the development and characteristics of early, middle and late adolescence. This book is written freely from the Christian perspective and proposes solutions from a biblical perspective. Our authors lead this book to Christian parents.

This book follows the first edition hurt [2004] and before Damage 2.0 [2011] for schools and community workers. This Baker book publication was published in 2007.

Chap Clark teaches youth, family and culture at Fuller Theological Seminary, is the chairman of the ParisTeen seminar, a senior editor of the Youthworker Journal, and author of more than 15 books. His wife, Dee Clark, is a family therapist and co-author of two other books. Together they raised three children into youth.

In the first part – from

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Clarks tells how the journey has changed since we were a teenager. As early as the 20th century, there were children and adults. By the middle of this century, the transition time between children and adults was no more than five years. Today, teenagers have experienced a transition of 15 years or more. Although many of our adults on this day have difficulty recognizing this difference, Clarks believes that as a society, our youth suffer from “systematic abandonment”. By "systematic giving up," they mean that parents spend more money on things and spend more time with their children to participate in activities, but don't spend time with children. Chap and Dee said that we “let our children enter an environment where they have never been able to handle the world we have given them.”第72页

As part of “personalization,” teenagers have three tasks – answering these questions: Who am I? What strength do I really have? Where am I suitable? According to social scientists, adolescence begins with the average age of adolescence in the community [biology] and ends when they achieve “personalization” [culture]. The average puberty before 1900 was over 14 years old, and the personality occurred at 16 years old. In 1980, the average age of puberty was 13 years old, and the personality occurred at 18 years old. Finally, the average age of adolescence in 2007 was 12 years old, and personalization occurred around 20 years old. page. 63 Now, puberty may begin as early as 11 years old.

the second part – from

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Explore different seasons of life. Referring to Ecclesiastes 3:1-8, the author points out that there are different seasons in our children's lives. Our authors point out that parents have five tasks: understanding, showing compassion, "bordering", charting/guidance and entering adulthood. In four consecutive chapters, they introduced childhood, early adolescence [junior high school], mid-puberty [high school], and late adolescence [young or emerging adults]. They show the process in the form of a tight rope; childhood and adulthood are two sides [dependency and interdependence], and adolescence is a long tightrope, they are individually engaged in individual [independent] tasks. During this time, these teenagers need family stability and security, including families responsible for their parents, who add that this is a fun home.

Middle-aged youth responded to giving up by forming their own "underground family" with friends. Chap and Dee took a chapter to compare what teenagers say, how parents explain it and what the teens really mean. I am a bit hesitant to agree with this whole chapter, but what I got from this chapter is that we need to listen to young people and continue to talk to determine their true meaning. They may not even know what they mean.

Finally, in the final chapter, Clarks discussed their model of successful parenting – parenting as a partnership – a three-level partnership. Using 1 Corinthians 12:27, they recognize that as Christians, parents are part of the body of Christ. As a person, we “cooperate with Christ”; as a couple, we “cooperate with our spouses – they are all personally” with Christ. When the children arrive home, there is a next level of partnership. Finally, they suggested forming a group of families who are responsible for each other. There is a strong interest in all members of the group. This is the child they see parenting "with a village. "When Chap is at from

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I am a little hesitant because hurt with Damage 2.0 It is for the community and the school. However, in this book, I am more comfortable with this idea for parents who can choose to include or exclude other families in their partnership because it is based on biblical principles. He called these other individuals/families "soul mate" and emphasized that they are the "soul mate" of both spouses, not just one of them. They conclude as follows:

1. "Every parent must seek to know, love and follow Jesus Christ.

Both parents must be a unit of cohesiveness and indestructible power and love.

This family must be surrounded by close friends or soul mate in the community.

4. Single-parent families need a soul mate. "P. 192-193

My concerns about Dr. Clark's view of the family and the church [comments to Hutt 2.0] have been largely alleviated. In addition to solving Christian parents disconnectedHe brings this model to community and school leaders in the form of a 5:1 project – five adults who maintain a positive relationship with each teenager [http://www.parenteen.org]. Of course, in the context of Christianity, we have more reasons to believe that God will happily bless our efforts, but salvation belongs to the Lord. In addition, Clarks has spent some time dealing with this cause and has put forward some practical ways to help parents, especially Christian parents, to build a home for our young people.

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